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#1 Francie

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Posted 10 July 2019 - 01:27 PM

​Please forgive me but I'm going to tell a long story......Some on here may know this story

 

For a while now Dr Sues and I have been dealing with issues involving her son Rees.  Some of you ISGers, who were at the QLD Nats last year, will know Rees also as "BEEF".   He took on this tag due to his size (6'3 and 139 Kgs) and red beard similar to the golfer.   He started to come to games with me last year and "Caddy" and we both made the trip to Qld without Dr Sues, as he really wanted to get involved in golf.   He enjoyed the social involvement with different golfers and the gentle kidding of mates during the round......not to mention the drinks.     :)   We even bought some clubs for him to start out.

 

Just prior to the Nats, Rees and I went to the Sun Skin Doctor and had a check up.   At about the time Rees was having trouble breathing while lying down in bed so he went to the Doctor who found some "gunk" in his lungs that they could clean out in a minor op.   They told him to lose some weight by January 2019 (as they didn't want to put him under anesthetic, then go back and they would look into it.     The skin doctor called him back about some concerns with some moles/spots and he had some of them cut out.    

 

After getting back from the Nats, Rees worked hard to lose the weight and during this time the doctor arranged tests and MRI's.   As time went on further tests found testicular cancer and cancer in his kidney.    From there they found he had Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) in his leg.   He kept fronting up for operations that needed to be done to ensure that things were controlled given the cancer.   As he couldn't still be put under anesthetic all these operation were done with local anesthetic.   As he had no work (he was working as a casual employee) we had to find money for these operations.  His doctor wanted to ensure his operations were in a "clean" hospital free of germs that could cause him other issues.

 

Throughout this time Rees, who is 24 yo but still living with us, took it upon himself to deal with this himself .    He didn't want his mum (Dr Sues) to worry too much so he only told her information sparingly.   He's declined offers for us to support him with his Hospital and Doctor visits, which we have to honour, as he's an adult.

 

The crux of what I'm saying here is about Mens Health and cancer, in particular.    I know that some of the "ISG family" know Rees and Dr Sues thought I could post something about his plight.   It's very hard to know how to tell some people.....should you ring them, text them do they need/want to know.......it's a difficult position to be in.   I'm not sure a public forum is proper either but I've been on ISG long enough to know there are a lot of decent people on here.

 

I know some of you already know and have responded in a PM to me but what I'm trying to say (in a long winded way) is that the cancer assist foundation have been a great assistance to us In reducing some of the medical bills that we've had to find money for.   I'm sure a lot of it comes from donations....so next time you see someone outside Coles rattling a tin....think of Rees and all the little children at Peter Mac Hospital and slip them a coin or two.

 

As for getting skin check ups......I was lucky.....my first was last year with Rees and I got an "all good" see you in 12 months.   This from a kid in the 60's and 70's who ran around all summer in his bathers and nothing else.   Some people can be lucky....and some get dealt a **** hand.   People....... get regular check ups.

 

I'm sorry about making this personal about our life but Dr Sue and I feel that we want those who know Rees to be aware. I'm sure everyone reading this knows of someone else who has suffered from it.   It's a bastard of a disease.  :( 


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 01:41 PM

Thanks for sharing Pete   The ISG community has been here for support in what ever way it has been able to. 

 

Beef is one of us already so we all send our love and thoughts to all of you. CANCER is f'ckd!


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 01:50 PM

Glad you have now made it known Pete, I've been wanting to say something to many for a while but it's not my business to go public with it.

 

We have a great community here...don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 02:11 PM

Glad you have now made it known Pete, I've been wanting to say something to many for a while but it's not my business to go public with it.

 

We have a great community here...don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it.

 

Exactly JB....that's what we were thinking last night.   If we tell someone, do we rely on them telling others....or do they think it's not their place to say anything??   Everyone is different.   Some people don't get told and then are pissed.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 02:14 PM

Exactly JB....that's what we were thinking last night.   If we tell someone, do we rely on them telling others....or do they think it's not their place to say anything??   Everyone is different.   Some people don't get told and then are pissed.

No one here would be annoyed that they weren't told...it's very personal.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 02:56 PM

It is a terrible disease and Megs and I wish Beef a full recovery - our thoughts are with you all because we know that when one of your family is going through this it impacts everyone
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Posted 10 July 2019 - 04:41 PM

WOW.

First up, anyone who is p.issed off or upset or whatever that they hadn't been told, should wake up to themselves!

Secondly, having had my wife brush with the big C and been through the 'feeling helpless' "on the side lines", I can empathize with the struggle you face. It's not easy.

On that note, like they say on planes, in an emergency, etc. Look after yourself first, then help others. Speaking from experience, I didn't and became useless to my wife. So, please ensure you and your Mrs are ok.

Now, as for the big C, treatment etc. there is a growing body of evidence that staying positive, being as 'normal' as possible, living, (as best as possible given drug side effects etc.) has a positive effect on treatment, outcomes and survival. And, if it resonates with Beef, look into sound naturopathy to support the body (I'll send you a PM).

Finally, and by no means the least because it's last, remember that even though he's not taking up your offers, the fact you make them and are there for him, will, without a doubt, be helping him. You sound very grounded and respectful of him, his wishes and his needs, so I have no doubt you will continue to help in ways that don't cross boundaries. Remember though, he probably doesn't want to talk about his illnesses, problems, all the time, so some 'normal' banter, golf, whatever will do as much for him as anything.

I hope you are Ok, and continue to reach out to others. Life throws sh.it at us sometime, but the true friendships rise above it!
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Posted 10 July 2019 - 05:27 PM

Thanks guys.   When I mentioned  people being pissed about not being told....in this circumstances relates to family members.....who haven't had a great deal to do with him for most of his mature life.  Please don't think it's about people on this forum.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 06:25 PM

best wishes to Rees , Francie, Dr Sue  if we can help let us know.

tough times but enjoy the times as well..

 

Last year I played in the 72 hole longest  day charity event

 i n support of cancer council . I will be supporting it again this year.

 

If others want to play I will post the details when the event entries open.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 06:31 PM

Thanks guys.   When I mentioned  people being pissed about not being told....in this circumstances relates to family members.....who haven't had a great deal to do with him for most of his mature life.  Please don't think it's about people on this forum.

 

Even more reason THEY need to WAKE UP TO THEMSELVES !!!

 

Families can be great and the worst.

 

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Posted 10 July 2019 - 06:33 PM

Firstly, thanks so much for sharing with us.  It could not have been an easy choice to make, but so glad you did.  Sorry to hear that Rees is going through a tough time and please let him know that the thoughts and prayers of many will follow him to hopefully a positive outcome.  He may not like the idea that it is out there, but he needs to know that he made quite the impression ( in a good way of course) during his little sojourn North.  Positive thoughts to Beef and big hugs to Sue.  You, ya big lug, just know that we are all here and look after yourself.  You have already been through more than most deserve in one lifetime.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 07:09 PM

No need to repeat what others have already said so eloquently, Pete...love and best wishes to Beef and you guys, mate.


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 09:37 PM

Thanks for sharing Peter, its certainly a tough time, when its yourself or family member  cops a killer illness.

 

Chezs cousin, is very much in the battle of his life at the moment,  when he was born he had something wrong with his liver  in which meant when he was old enough  (around 3 years of age) had his 1st Liver transplant and at the time  There was no anti rejection tablet he could take once recieved his 1st liver transplant in Australia as he had reactions to them all... So they had to get a tablet from oversea's  at the cost of 10grand a tablet a day (they was lucky they got to do this on a trial.

 

Now at the age of 21-22 he is facing the battle of his life and is not expected to live much longer then October  as he has to have a 2nd liver transplant and may have to accept a  liver with hep  c  but also  has to Battle  The Big C on top of this as well.

 

 

It doesnt matter what age you are  wether your 20 years old  or 76 years old Cancer can hit anyone at anytime to anyone of us,   This is a time when we need our families to be around and be supportted  rather then be angry and upset becuase you havent been told yet.... 

 

 

anyway enough of my partners cousin

 

 

Pete i hope Rees makes a full recovery from this and i wish you  and your family all the best


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Posted 10 July 2019 - 10:25 PM

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Posted 11 July 2019 - 07:37 AM

Francie....

Mate that took some guts to post, Muzza gave me a heads up a while ago that Beef was not good but fark me he has a battle on his hands...

My thoughts and those of the PMG are with you all as this battle goes on....

Hopefully Beef apart from the family has a good support group around him ....

Hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel


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