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#916 Weetbix

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Posted 14 November 2018 - 07:09 PM

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Posted 14 November 2018 - 07:14 PM

sad news indeed, big hugs Commish


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Posted 14 November 2018 - 07:30 PM

So sad

 

 

sad news indeed, big hugs Commish

 

Indeed.  The saddest part is that talking to my mate and his wife post funeral, they will forever have a thought process of WHY and was it THEM.   That is truly sad and I guess what every grieving family goes through when this mongrel touches them.


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Posted 14 November 2018 - 10:05 PM

Thoughts and prayers from the Ah Ben clan commish to the family and friends
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Posted 15 November 2018 - 07:39 AM

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That's just gut wrenching....
My thoughts go out to one and all ...
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Posted 15 November 2018 - 03:08 PM

Sad news Commish for someone so young.  A squad mate of mine succumbed last week, at work I believe.    It's so indiscriminate and in many forms.     


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Posted 15 November 2018 - 09:32 PM

Sad news Commish for someone so young.  A squad mate of mine succumbed last week, at work I believe.    It's so indiscriminate and in many forms.     

 

How true Pete... Just when you think you know 20% it goes back to 5.  Hope UROK with the loss of a friend.  Sometimes I think the way our parents and the way their parents before them lived is much better.  They went through the 'Great Depression' and didn't have this sh1t.  Is it us or just a societal expectation?  Do we really need so much??   Life was harder back then, but soooo much simpler.


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Posted 16 November 2018 - 10:01 AM

Just so hard to get my head around what thoughts must be running through someone’s mind to take them to the final step.

It must be like a dream I’m sure we’ve all had...screaming out for help but there’s no sound of your voice, you think no one hears, no one cares, yet it’s the complete opposite.

Thinking of you Commish and Francie at this awful time....and those two families of course.
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Posted 16 November 2018 - 10:09 PM

Here's something.

My eldest daughter had lived in a share house since 19 when she started Uni at RMIT. She was a strong independent woman with a part time job and many friends. Her mother and I divorced when she was 6. I remarried and we saw each other I thought regularly enough. She had travelled the world, both Europe and most of Asia including India by the time she wad 23. All self funded.
In 2014 she decided at 24 to consume 3 48 tab packs of Panadol and 2 full packs of Sudafed. She had read on the web this was an easy way to end your life. She did this on a Thursday night.
By Friday afternoon she was in agony and did some more research and discovered that her liver was failing and she would endure a long painful death.
It was then she called an Ambulance.
She called me from St Vincents Hospital on Saturday morning when a Doctor told her the medication they were using to reverse the paracetamol overdose wasn't working. She told me on the phone her liver was failing and she was scared.
It wasn't till I got there a Doctor told me what had happened.
I then called her mother. Who also didn't know. She came in and we both were in shock.
By midday my daughter was in a coma and transferred to The Austin ICU and was on life support for 5 days. By some miracle she survived.
Her explaination and reasons for her actions went much deeper than depression.
Through support from her mother and a Clinical Psychologist she lives on. There were two relapses during 2015 however she called an Ambulance straight away.
My belief is she was suffering from a type of burn out many of us get after years of working towards something without achievement or success. She was still trying to complete her Degree whilst isolating herself from her support group (family and some friends) and sick in a house with poor heating. Her belief was that her work wasn't good enough and she kept on missing deadlines with over revision.
This lead to distorted thinking and a loss of self worth. Her decision was I think made not to end her suffering but a way to just end everything. She felt she had wasted 5 years on a Degree she couldn't finish or ever use.
The fact her closest friends and family had no idea she was that low and in hindsight how desperate she must have felt and how alone she thought she was. It breaks my heart thinking about it.
So why?
I don't think I will ever understand why. I am not able to.
I do know I need to always be a part of her life. Even at times when she makes it clear she doesn't want me to be.
She continues to work and travel the world. We were lucky the ICU Team at The Austin were able to save her.
For those who have lost loved ones this way my deepest condolences and sympathy.
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Posted 16 November 2018 - 11:37 PM

When someone decides to end their life there is usually a calm that comes over them, a feeling of tranquility. There is almost a feeling of relief and inner peace.

Unfortunately it is becoming way to common these days. I think Commish touched on it, that life doesn’t need to be as complicated as we make it these days.

Sorry to hear about your friends, Commish and Frank.

Thanks for sharing, Helium Boy.
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Posted 16 November 2018 - 11:43 PM

Thanks for sharing Mick. Condolences to the others
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Posted 17 November 2018 - 06:28 AM

Geez Mick that's a very powerful story. Can't imagine how that would have been to go through with her.
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Posted 17 November 2018 - 09:21 AM

So many thoughts,

So many processes,

So many reasons

 

AND STILL WE KNOW NOT HOW TO DETERMINE AND UNDERSTAND.. :(

 

Hope the story continues on a path that is good for her Mick.


Edited by Commish, 17 November 2018 - 09:22 AM.

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Posted 17 November 2018 - 05:11 PM

I am truly thankful that no one in my family has had to suffer the sort of issues described by others in here. I don't know how well I would cope.

We all have depressing things occur in our lives from time to time. What the community needs is education on how to handle the tough times. This should be taught in school.
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Posted 17 November 2018 - 05:59 PM

The question is why?
Why did they not say something, because sometimes it all gets too much and we don’t know how to help ourself.
Why did they take whatever they did? Because some times it is the easy way.
I have been through some stuff that may not have affected someone else but everyone copes differently .
I agree with OB , we should have our kids given lessons or ideas how to cope with sucidial ideation and how to ask for help from family and friends.

Hokey Pokey hit the nail on the head with the inner calmness or feeling of tranquility when the decision is made, I was very lucky a few years ago I went shopping and by the time I finished swallowing everything ( which took ages to unpack ) it was over 300 tablets ingested, maybe I was lucky but that much tends to upset the stomach and I managed to lose everything I swallowed both ends.
Has it affected my health? Maybe it has but mentally I am stronger with a good backup of health professionals and family that understands and I know how to ask for help when needed.
I would tell anyone trust your family and friends to help you in times of need but I know some families will stick their head in the sand so it’s time for families to understand that not everyone is immune from mental health issues.
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