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Posted 10 May 2018 - 05:37 PM

Sadly, I have lost a dear friend.

Her partner hung himself back in February and she could not move forward.

Her Mum had her admitted to a mental health facility. They assessed her and said she was at no risk of self harm, 12 hours after she was released she was dead.

She leaves behind two young boys.

Even though her family saw the warning signs and tried to get her help it was still not enough to save her.

If anyone is struggling please, please talk to someone, anyone.

There are always other options.


That is so terrible for the entire family, and their little boys. Insidious affliction and sometimes despite our best efforts, the black dog still wins.

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Posted 10 May 2018 - 05:53 PM

Sorry to hear FP  wow that is a tough situation.


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Posted 10 May 2018 - 06:00 PM

Sadly, I have lost a dear friend.

Her partner hung himself back in February and she could not move forward.

Her Mum had her admitted to a mental health facility. They assessed her and said she was at no risk of self harm, 12 hours after she was released she was dead.

She leaves behind two young boys.

Even though her family saw the warning signs and tried to get her help it was still not enough to save her.

If anyone is struggling please, please talk to someone, anyone.

There are always other options.

Just horrible mate...even her love for her kids wasn't enough to embrace life.

 

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Posted 11 May 2018 - 07:54 AM

Sorry to hear and hope you are ok or doing as well as you can!

 

Such a terrible situation before and after. Thoughts go out to the family and hope they (and you) pull through!!


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Posted 11 May 2018 - 08:05 AM

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Posted 11 May 2018 - 01:26 PM

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Posted 11 May 2018 - 01:52 PM

We desperately need more mental health resources. It's not sexy like opening a Children's Hospital or adding drugs to the PBS. Never seems to get the extra funding it needs.

When you have mental health issues you need immediate and affordable access to help. Not put on a waiting list.

I'm sure I wouldn't be here if I didn't have the funds to seek out professional help when I needed it.

Maybe either party might float an election promise. I think they would be surprised how many votes they would gain. I don't know any teenager or adult that hasn't been affected by a tragedy and doesn't know someone with current mental health issues.

Mental health is a far bigger problem than cancer and heart disease combined.
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Posted 11 May 2018 - 03:40 PM

FP, that is gut-wrenching. I hope your doing ok.



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Posted 11 May 2018 - 05:49 PM

Sadly, I have lost a dear friend.

Her partner hung himself back in February and she could not move forward.

Her Mum had her admitted to a mental health facility. They assessed her and said she was at no risk of self harm, 12 hours after she was released she was dead.

She leaves behind two young boys.

Even though her family saw the warning signs and tried to get her help it was still not enough to save her.

If anyone is struggling please, please talk to someone, anyone.

There are always other options.

 

Terribly sad for the kids, and the families of both parties.... shattering actually

Shattering for friends as well...

Hope you ROK Slim...

 

Feel also for those in the Mental Health Department who decided for whatever reason that the lady in question was in sound enough mind to be released ...

 

As Slim said for farks sake if one is struggling talk to someone, that one call or message could save someones life


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Posted 12 May 2018 - 05:18 AM

Deep breathe.

Exhale.

FFS, WTF... !!!

I'm sorry, but the mental health department who made the assessment she was OK needs to be held accountable.

This poor women's kids, family, friends.

F.uck.

Yes, I know, the doctors and nurses etc. Who assessed her are only human. But, FFS, it's mental health not an exact science, it's not just a blood test or scan, so SURELY they MUST err on the side of caution?

I feel for them. Their job must tough.

And, yes, I get the whole limited funds, beds, blah blah ... But. If she was bleeding out, or was having a heart attack she'd have been kept in hospital AND had a full management plan before she was released.

It's just f.uk'd.

Those poor kids...

This is where, we, as a community should pool our resources for action. Can we donate $$$, or do something for the kids?

I'm thinking they'll have heaps of help now, immediate, but in say, a few months when the dust settles... That's when a pick me could really help them. What can we do?

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Posted 12 May 2018 - 05:37 AM

I just want to share my experience with the health department mental health, ah... Process.

Friend of ours was not well.

Thankfully she reached out to us.

She was a mess. Kids, family, issues with husband and drugs. Eldest child with physical and mental health issues (ironically caused by the health department).

I took her to go a hospital.

She had agreed it was her best option.

F.uk me.

It was hard to get her admitted. And she needed it. She told us, me and my wife, she had plans to take her own life. She was a nurse, and had taken drugs from work. Like, yes, serious plans. I found the drugs in her car...

After 5 interviews and assessments they came out and told me she should go home...

I'd be called in after each one because she wanted a friendly face with her, but, I'd leave for each assessment. She was visibly unwell.

I'd given them the drugs.

I'd given them full history.

I luckily knew people in the hospital. I'd made calls while they were assessing her.

On getting told she should go home, I rang my contact, he got on the phone and spoke to the counselor...

Counselor looked at me, death stare.

Got of the phone and said "there is no need to go and do that, and I suppose you are going to call the media too"

I looked at him and said

"no mate, I've already done that and you don't know who I know. This lady needs help and I'm here to make sure she gets it"

She got admitted. Was in for two weeks.

Assessments in following days of admission revealed she had long term issues (we didn't know) and was a high probability risk for suicide on every assessment sheet.

I still don't know how they go it so wrong to start with...

I needed a few drinks when I got home after all that...

What sh.its me the most is how some malingering old fart can get care, or someone with a snotty nose gets help, but serious stuff with serious consequences gets f.uk all help.

F.uk it makes me angry.
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Posted 14 May 2018 - 09:20 PM

I just want to share my experience with the health department mental health, ah... Process.

Friend of ours was not well.

Thankfully she reached out to us.

She was a mess. Kids, family, issues with husband and drugs. Eldest child with physical and mental health issues (ironically caused by the health department).

I took her to go a hospital.

She had agreed it was her best option.

F.uk me.

It was hard to get her admitted. And she needed it. She told us, me and my wife, she had plans to take her own life. She was a nurse, and had taken drugs from work. Like, yes, serious plans. I found the drugs in her car...

After 5 interviews and assessments they came out and told me she should go home...

I'd be called in after each one because she wanted a friendly face with her, but, I'd leave for each assessment. She was visibly unwell.

I'd given them the drugs.

I'd given them full history.

I luckily knew people in the hospital. I'd made calls while they were assessing her.

On getting told she should go home, I rang my contact, he got on the phone and spoke to the counselor...

Counselor looked at me, death stare.

Got of the phone and said "there is no need to go and do that, and I suppose you are going to call the media too"

I looked at him and said

"no mate, I've already done that and you don't know who I know. This lady needs help and I'm here to make sure she gets it"

She got admitted. Was in for two weeks.

Assessments in following days of admission revealed she had long term issues (we didn't know) and was a high probability risk for suicide on every assessment sheet.

I still don't know how they go it so wrong to start with...

I needed a few drinks when I got home after all that...

What sh.its me the most is how some malingering old fart can get care, or someone with a snotty nose gets help, but serious stuff with serious consequences gets f.uk all help.

F.uk it makes me angry.

 

Unfortunately that scenario plays out waaaay too often and there is no accountability at the other end.  As you said earlier, it's all about the limited beds and available resources to cope with what is an ever increasing problem.  Building infrastructure to benefit the majority.... offering tax cuts to benefit the majority... offering better schooling and general hospital needs for the majority.  That wins votes.   Spending billions on a disease that affects the minority, but in the long run affects the majority.... That don't win votes... just sympathy.   Pathetic really.  Would be interesting to know how much has been added to government coffers, State and Federal, from the sale of Mental Health Facilities in the various states and territories of Australia.  Then how much of that has been put back into mental health programs?


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